When you plan a goal or plan for your growth, how do you do it? Is it like a meditation, you reflect and take time for yourself or does it come like a flash in an instant, something you know you must do? Either way it is important I guess to have these moments, in order to really see and design a way forward for yourself. As John Maxwell says, growth is not automatic and we need to be deliberate in our choices.
Where and how should we grow though? Sometimes the best advice comes from the feedback from others and I am always encouraged by this as it gives me a chance to assess how others see me. Am I living up to expectations and where can I go from here? It is also important to not be solely taking in the points of others but to also find your own point of view. What do you want to change in your life? Which aspects of your character do you want to develop and find opportunities to express?
This is true especially of the people I train and develop as speakers. Sometimes the strongest advice I can give is for them to find out what makes them interesting. We cannot please everyone, but we will please someone. Who are they and what value do they see in us? Is it in informational speeches, motivational speeches or funny stand-up comedy speeches? We cannot play everything but need to narrow into something and this can help us find a way forward.
In my own life, I have often had anxiety and stress when I have not been able to clearly see a way forward. Like the end result, the change in my development, seeing where I have come from. While this is not always essential, when I can see myself doing these activities, then it makes it easier. Dr. Joe Dispenza says that when we can really visualise this with a strong emotional connection, already playing out what the scenario will feel like, then the whole situation has a better chance of manifesting. When I think back over my life so far, this is really true. My strongest moments have played out like a de-ja-vu. Perhaps this is really what de-ja-vu is, a playing out of something your brain has already experienced. When it happens this makes it stronger. Our second time real time experience is all the more important because we have been through it already.
So how can you help yourself in this way? What can you do on a daily basis?
For me, I would visualise and practice the small things. I have been experimenting with visualising my day before I get out of bed. Really seeing things going well. Meeting people, having experiences and things running smoothly. When I am in the car or on the bus, likewise I picture green lights and easy traffic. Some days this is impossible but I can try. Meetings, seminars, workshops, clients, I can visualise it all. The effect on my character and person is a strong point. I feel empowered that I am the creator of my environment to an extent rather than being a victim to it. This difference is clue to being a stronger person, making better decisions and moving forward. It is our decision making that leads up forward. We are always about decisions. Some people decide to wear the same clothing everyday to avoid decisions. Why not just spend a few minutes planning at the start of the day and get on with it.
David Corcoran is a Executive Voice Coach. He helps people take responsibility for their communication. This Blog contains his regular musings, thoughts and ideas. He is based in Vienna, Austria.