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The Power of Words

5/24/2020

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Words can make us or break us! "I love you" said for the first time with a new partner fills us with joy, while "it's not you, it's me" sends a clear signal we are about to break up with someone.
In the office environment too we use words and phrases also for effect. "That sounds interesting BUT....", "Let's form a project committee for that issue" and "What a fantastic idea". The question is though, how often are you thinking about your word choices?
At the moment, I am reading the book titled 'Words can change your brain' by Mark Robert Waldman and Andrew Greenberg and they discuss that negative and positive words can literally wire your brain chemistry and change neural activity.
Think of the 'killer phrases' used in the office or over used words like 'awesome' and 'game changer'. These words can bring down the energy of a good conversation, leaving people feeling underwhelmed when overused. We ought to avoid these cliché phrases and words as they do more harm. Why do we use them? I suspect often we feel like the need to say something. They become as useless as filler words like 'um', 'ah', 'oder' and 'aber'. We try to inspire, sound witty or intelligent, but miss the point that we can only inspire change in ourselves. People need to arrive at our ideas in there own time. Your word choices can repel or even offend. Another point made in the book is that we all carry different meanings to the same words and in many ways, no two people are alike in their usage of language and understanding of word meaning. Hence the problem with overused phrases.
This brings about immense challenges when we think about how we communicate. It is up to us make sure we are clear and understood, as we intended. I am sure you have been in a situation where you said something and it was taken in a completely different direction by the person you spoke to. Waldman and Greenberg offer many solutions to communication in the book. Several I am working with and thinking about at the moment include:
  1. Say 5 positive things for every 1 negative thing. The goal is not to not say negative things or use negative words, but the balance needs to favour the positive.
  2. When you speak with people, limit your dialogue to 30-seconds. People cannot hold more information than 3-4 chunks, so perhaps aim in a conversation to have the other person speak every 30 seconds. No one wants to listen to someone waffle on.
  3. Speak slowly. I am pleased to read this tip as this is something I encourage my clients to do, and myself am victim of often speaking too quickly especially when on a topic I love talking about. I must appreciate that I am sharing information, potentially that my conversation partner might want to have time to hear, process and then respond to the topic. As a language trainer, I am often confronted with this issue, so over the past years have learned to slow down my speech and be more clear and succinct. It does take practice!
'Words can change your brain' has so far proved to be a fantastic read I would encourage you to look into. For now, I consider my words, impact and communication strategies. For me, words resonate in certain ways. Psychology, Training, Personal Development, Coaching, Voice, Emotional Intelligence, Leadership, Performance, Opera, and Singing all mean very definite things. When I see these words their meaning strengthens and my feelings grow. I add my experience to these words, like an emotional word bank account. They give me a positive feeling that I use in my everyday life. As my Grandma always said 'If you cannot say anything nice, don't say anything at all.' There is truth to that! Finally, 'Speak to Inspire'.
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8/10/2020 03:06:45 am

Words hold a lot of power. I mean, you can make a person either feel happy or sad with your words, that is the truth of the matter. I think that it will take a while before people can understand this, though. If we are unable to do that, then that would be the end of us. We need to start using our words to help the ones that matter. We have to be mindful of our words, for sure.

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