Believe it or not, other people rub off on us. Both in good ways and in bad. When we were growing up our parents would say, be careful about hanging around with that kid, or I don't like that girl you are with and to most of us this advice fell on deaf ears until we ultimately broke up with that girl or that friend was no longer our friend. Certainly as adults, we are surrounded by many people, and we need to be careful about our influences.
So, who are the 5 main people around you? These people should support you as well as challenge you on the way to you being a better version of yourself. This year I have really changed who my 5 are and it has been a good exercise. Mentors have come and gone and I am grateful that I have met someone who truly interesting and interested in me. We have come together at the right time and I feel open to his learning. He has introduced me to John Maxwell and his teachings and I am open and grateful for this opportunity.
Whoever your five people are, and perhaps if you are on another persons five list, we need to take this responsibility seriously. To practice what we preach, remain open and teachable and to find ways to connect regularly with our people. Many of us are becoming increasingly isolated, with home based offices, flexible working hours, juggling more activities and to do's and so we perhaps don't make time for our 5 as we should. Knowing our five is important and developing these relationships, giving more value than we receive and seeing how this benefits our life. My five really give me something different and from each I am grateful for their teaching.
David Corcoran is a Executive Voice Coach. He helps people take responsibility for their communication. This Blog contains his regular musings, thoughts and ideas. He is based in Vienna, Austria.